Who would you call to repair a relationship? Could communication change your relationship?
As Dr. Phil said, ‘Would you rather be right or be happy’
Do we hold on to whose fault it is to be right? To place the blame on others? Or as a coping mechiasm to mask our hurt that our friendship as ended.
Is it ever too late to connect someone?
Questions you should ask yourself:
- Why are you reaching out to this person? This is a big question. If it is too rehash the events that separated you, don’t bother. You alone can chose to let go of it and move on. Is it to rekindle the relationship because you are lonely. Don’t bother, they will not fill the void you are looking for. Let them go, and focus on pursuing your interests and met new people that way.
- However if it is to right a wrong done by you, find closure, rekindle a great friendship that was lost because of a misunderstanding, or a variety of healthy reasons than call, write, email. Say what you need to say.
- What do I want to get out of the conversation? Be reasonable, being friends again may not happen but finding closure or peace, even understanding can.
- What if they don’t want to talk, or answer or respond?
- Than release the hurt, anger, rejection (yes easier said than done). When you think of them and start replaying all of the hurt, stop say out loud that you wish them well and send positive thoughts. Hard to do, will need to be repeated but letting go of a situation you have no control over is freeing for YOU.
Be who you are.
‘Those mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.’