La La Land = Fake Movie

I came across this article today and after reading so many positive reviews of La La Land it was interesting to read this article. I personally did not enjoy La La Land. For me it was like a long running Seinfeld episode set to music. Nothing happened in the movie, the script was weak, no chemistry between Gosling and Stone and I am still trying to figure out what time period it was suppose to take place in. I like Gosling and Stone as actors. I understand that part of the appeal of this movie is a throw back to nostalgic times. However, nothing really happened, just some bad dialogue (think of the dinner fight scene) and than some dancing. For me Lion was exceptionally better. But this is my opinion and others love it. Everyone has different taste in movies, books, life, so I ask: How much do reviews affect your choices?

My question is the one that was raised in the article below…Fake Movie? Why is it nominated? Do you agree with the author?

Post from The Guardian

Rarely have the Oscars seen such a dead cert. If you fancy La La Land for best picture, the most attractive odds you will get are 9:2 on. The film is also nominated in another 13 categories, tying with Titanic and All About Eve for most ever nods. It has already snagged a record-breaking seven Golden Globes, and five Baftas.

Critics have been equally charmed. In Britain, the coveted five stars have been bestowed not just by the Sun, the Mirror and Metro, but also by the Guardian, the Times and the Telegraph. Audiences have followed suit. The film has taken more than 10 times its $30m (£24m) budget at the box office.

In such circumstances, you would expect a bit of a backlash, and a La La Land insurgency has duly kicked off. The male lead, Ryan Gosling’s Sebastian, has been indicted for boorishness and insensitivity. When he is not whitesplaining jazz, he is mansplaining it to Emma Stone’s Mia. Both characters have been thought shallow, and chemistry between them has been found lacking. Technique has also been faulted. Gosling and Stone are no Fred and Ginger in the hoofing stakes, and their “reedy voices” have disappointed.

For some, the narrative sags and the plot fails to convince. Just why do Seb and Mia break up? A temporary separation doesn’t have to destroy a relationship. Then there is the counterfactual ending. What is it supposed to mean? That they should have stayed together? When they could have, but didn’t and appeared content with the alternative paths they had chosen?

Gosling plays pianon in La La Land: For this role, Gosling learned to play the piano in three months. If it is that easy, we can all imagine uploading ourselves into the ultimate Instagram ego trip.© AP For this role, Gosling learned to play the piano in three months. If it is that easy, we can all imagine uploading ourselves into the ultimate Instagram ego trip. Naysayers have made yet more sweeping charges. La La Land has been branded feeble, dull, flat, humourless, bloodless and unengaging. It has been called a “sort-of-musical, sort-of-movie-about-jazz, sort-of-underdog tale” that is “disappointingly mediocre”.

In fact, these reactions can be traced to a deeper deficiency: the Oscar favourite is a fake movie. Poke your finger through the sugary icing and you find no cake beneath – no heart, no soul, no joy, no warmth, no wonder.

To create the illusion of charm, the film relies not on intrinsic strengths but on external trappings. There is the glamour of its beauteous stars, and recollections of their past, more stirring, pairings. There is the tinselly glitz of Hollywood and the Californian sunshine. Above all, La La Land depends on parasitisingother, better films marinated in the nectar of nostalgia.

When Gosling hangs from a lamp-post, it is to tell you this is Singing in the Rain. West Side Story, Funny Face, The Young Girls of Rochefort, Shall We Dance, The Umbrellas of Cherbourg and plenty of others are similarly appropriated. La La Land wants you to believe that it shares the joy, humour, tragedy and humanity of such celluloid treasures. It doesn’t.

Most of the films referenced are romances. They celebrate love and life. La La Land does the opposite. Its principals don’t find meaning in each other. For the most part, their relationship is glossed over in montage. Their heart-to-hearts are rendered in stilted cliche.

They get together when their careers are failing, and spend their time sharing notes. Once they have co-mentored themselves on to the road to personal advancement, they ditch each other like a rocket’s blast-off section.

The aspirations they pursue instead of each other involve neither duty nor philanthropy, but only self-realisation. City of stars, are you shining just for me? You damn well ought to be, because I’m worth it.

Mia points out the window from which Bogart and Bergman gazed in Casablanca. That film was about sacrifice for love. In La La Land, love is sacrificed for self. Once this becomes clear, La La Land’s disparate vagaries start to explain themselves. Of course, its characters are humourless and insensitive: narcissists usually are. They can’t be rich and complex, because self-obsessives aren’t.

Mia is a cipher because she is just the prisoner of ambition. Seb sees himself as a heroic champion of art, but he is more of a nerd than a musician. For him, jazz is mainly fodder for his vanity and pomposity. Real enthusiasts consider that purists such as him are holding back the genre, not rescuing it from ruin.

The puzzles of the narrative also begin to resolve themselves. The reason not much seems to happen is that egotists are not deeply conflicted and don’t go in for much interaction with others. When Seb arrives to pick up Mia, he blasts his car horn rather than ringing the doorbell. Never mind the neighbours; it’s only Seb who counts. When Mia is looking for Seb in a cinema audience, she stands in front of the screen and blocks the picture. Of course. She matters; the other filmgoers don’t.

Ryan Gosling and Emma Stone in a scene from 'La La Land'.© Label Media/REX/Shutterstock Ryan Gosling and Emma Stone in a scene from ‘La La Land’. We can now see why these sweethearts separate. On their last night together they pledge eternal love; but they also promise to follow their dreams. For them, the latter was bound to trump the former: self-worship brooks no distractions. If, at the end, Seb seems a little lonely and Mia seems a little bored, no matter. Their final smiles indicate that both have attained what really matters: self-satisfaction.

Still, La La Land is a film for our time. With our self-nurturing, self-promotion, clicktivism, Twitterstorms, sexts and selfies, we are all narcissists now. This being so, many of us would kill to get into Seb or Mia’s shoes. The Strictly and X Factor level of the film’s performances hints that we might. To prepare for this role, Gosling picked up piano-playing in a mere three months. If it is that easy, and you don’t have to be very good, we can all imagine uploading ourselves into the ultimate Instagram ego trip.

Nonetheless, our descent into solipsism still carries with it lingering disquiet. La La Land helps us put this aside by spangling self-love with stardust. This may be a neat conjuring trick; whether it entitles the film to cinema’s highest honour is another question.

It is easy to see why the Academy’s voters have embraced La La Land. Many of them will have followed a path all too similar to Seb and Mia’s. Seeing their life-choices vindicated by the witchcraft of their trade must have been something of a comfort. All the same, the best picture winners that stick in the memory, such as Schindler’s List, Gandhi, Chariots of Fire and Titanic, tend to extol humanity’s better nature, not its shortcomings.

This time round there are also films among La La Land’s doomed rivals that could make us proud of our species. Moonlight deals with love. Manchester by the Sea offers contrition. Arrival honours inquiry. Hacksaw Ridge celebrates selflessness. Any of these would be a worthier winner than Damien Chazelle’s tawdry and dispiriting confection. La La Land’s victory on Sunday night will tell us something about our era. But it will be no triumph for film-makers, filmgoers or film.

A Woman Should Know…

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A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….
Enough money within her control to move out…
And rent a place of her own
even if she never wants to
or needs to…
Something perfect to wear if the employer
or date of her dreams wants to See Her in an hour…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
A youth she’s content to leave behind….
A past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her Old Age….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
A set of screwdrivers,
a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…
One friend who always makes her laugh…
And one Who lets her cry…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….
A good piece of furniture not previously owned
by anyone else in her Family…
Eight matching plates,
wine glasses with stems,
And a recipe for a meal that will make
her guests feel Honored…
A feeling of control over her destiny…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
How to fall in love without losing herself..
HOW TO QUIT A JOB,
BREAK UP WITH A LOVER,
AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT
RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP…
When to try harder…
And WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
That she can’t change the length of her calves,
The width of her hips,
or the nature of her parents..
That her childhood may not have been perfect…
But it’s over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
What she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…
How to live alone…
Even if she doesn’t like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
Whom she can trust,
Whom she can’t,
And why she shouldn’t take it personally…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
Where to go…
Be it to her best friend’s kitchen table…
Or a charming inn in the woods…
When her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
What she can and can’t accomplish in a day…
A month…
And a year…

Written by Pamela Redmond Satran

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What do you think of the poem? Do agree with all, some or none of it? What would you add?

PC gone to far? Steve Martin honors or insults Carrie Fisher on Twitter..

Steve Martin Deletes Carrie Fisher Tribute After Backlash

Steve Martin’s tribute to the late Carrie Fisher did not sit well with some.The actor tweeted about Fisher, whom he called a friend, following the news that the “Star Wars” actress died Tuesday after suffering a heart attack on a flight from London to Los Angeles last week.

© Twitter New York Magazine noted that Martin’s tweet focused on her physicality, rather than her talents. The actor ultimately deleted the tweet following the backlash.

While some thought criticism of Martin was unjustified, others said Fisher ― a staunch feminist who spoke out against the objectification of women throughout her career ― wouldn’t have paid any mind to the “whiny dudes” getting mad over the clap-backs.

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I can’t believe that there is any backlash over this. He lovingly honored his friend by commenting on her beauty and brains. Why do we have to critize and find darkness in someone’s memories?
Honoring someone’s death is personal and does not need to be analayed by others. 
Who in the world knows what Carrie would have thought or said. Why in the world is New York Magazie even getting involved?
How far does Political Correctness go?  How far as a society are we going to let it go? 
What are your thoughts?

Human Rights Day

Honoring Human Rights Day
On this day in 1948, the United Nations adopted a universal set of human rights that apply to all of us. We honor this milestone towards creating a more free and equal world.
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Excerpt of UN News article
9 December 2016 – Upholding human rights is in the interest of all and are at the heart of the work and identify of the United Nations, Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon has stressed ahead of Human Rights Day, calling on the international community to “stand up for someone’s rights today, tomorrow and every day.”In his message on the Day, Mr. Ban recalled that over the decade of his tenure as UN chief, he has repeatedly stressed the interdependence of the three pillars of the Organization – peace, sustainable development and human rights.

“Together, they form the basis of resilient and cohesive societies rooted in inclusion, justice and the rule of law,” he said, noting that human rights are also at the heart of the work of the UN.

The Universal Declaration of Human Rights was adopted in 1948. One of its foundations is the notion that everyone is entitled to the full range of human rights and that all of us are collectively responsible for defending them. In order to celebrate and promote this view, this year marks a new Human Rights Day campaign, Stand up for someone’s rights today!

The campaign refers to a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt, the first chair of the then UN Commission on Human Rights and oversaw the drafting of the Declaration:

“Where, after all, do universal human rights begin? In small places, close to home – so close and so small that they cannot be seen on any maps of the world. Unless these rights have meaning there, they have little meaning anywhere. Without concerted citizen action to uphold them close to home, we shall look in vain for progress in the larger world.”

What does Human Rights mean to you? Should it be the same definition for each country?

Share you thoughts….

Would you write an honest review if you had to include a selfie? Would a picture affect your opinion of the review?

Selfies are complicated things. They can be an act of ego, an attempt to boost self-esteem, a way to authenticate that you were really there at a historic moment, or that you met a very important person. That said, it can also be, depending on where you are and what you’re doing, just a wee…

via Yelp Is Now Encouraging Their Users To Take Selfies When They Write Reviews — Real Stories – UPROXX

Interesting article that makes me wonder about reviews. I write reviews and often will read reviews pro and con before making purchases, going to see a movie, buying a new book, staying at a hotel or resort, etc.

I like and trust the honest reviews, not the glowing reviews but the ones that say yes it is good and here are some things I wish were better…why? because not everything can be 5 star there is always room to improve in all aspects of our lives and that goes for consumer products as well.

Yet as I read this article I wonder how many people would write an honest review, less than 5 star, if you had to include your picture with it?

Often on Facebook, twitter, articles with comment sections many people comment, sometimes, well let’s be real, often, leads to a disagreement which leads to school yard arguments ‘no your stupid, no you are’ and than down grade from there.

As a reviewer I don’t want to put my picture up with my review. Why? Because one I think the review should be, well about the review itself not about my picture. And two I want to make sure I am doing what the author and fellow readers have entrusted me to do…WRITE AN HONEST REVIEW.

I can’t write an honest review if I am worried about someone coming after me personally verbally or physically (which has happened where chefs come after customers, people stoop to criticising the person’s looks or intelligence because they don’t like the review).

To me if a friend as for a review, an honest review I feel a lot of pressure how I will respond, worried about their feelings and our friendship. If I review a restaurant but go bck to that place with friends later I don’t want to feel stared at or having anything say, ‘put’ into my food.

Reviews, for me, honest reviews, should be faceless and nameless. People are coming to read about the product not about the person.

What do you think? Do you write reviews? Would you add your picture? Would a picture affect your opinion of the review?

 

Do Millennials Need ‘Adulting School’

Shutterstock We’re going to start this one real slow for everyone whose head is already throbbing just from reading the headline: Millennials, currently the most reviled generation for reasons that have yet to become truly apparent (but are becoming more and more clear), just got a new school in Portland, Maine. Unlike other schools —…

via No, Millennials, You Actually Don’t Need ‘Adulting School’ — Real Stories – UPROXX

Interesting article about how Millennia’s after leaving high school don’t have the basic skills ie. laundry, doing dishes, paying bills, cooking, cleaning etc. An actual school (who is paying for this?!) has emerged where young adults can go and learn these skills.

One the one hand knowledge is power, so the more you know the better off you will be. Maybe some people were never raised with these skills for whatever reason and are responsibly taking it upon themselves to actively learn life skills. I think that is great. If this is needed for you to success in life than grab every opportunity you can.

On the other hand, it has to be asked: why does this generation not know these skills? Why are parents speaking and fighting their children’s battles more often? Even calling Universities or employers to ask why their child got a low grade or why weren’t they hired. This type of parenting is not healthy and does not help anyone. I see it more and more often, little Johnny can’t come in second, there must be no winners and losers because it will hurt his feelings. But what happens in the real world when there are set backs? Will little Johnny be prepared if he has been told his whole life that he is special and can succeed at anything?

Parents it is ok if your child stumbles, has a hard time with something, even fails at something. Because there is a lesson to be learned. It is not what happened it is how you deal with it.

Do you keep trying, keep believing in yourself that you can or do you give up, never learn and wait for someone else to come along and fix it? If you are in the latter group than I hope you seek out this new school, learn new skills but mostly learn that life will have challenges and that you can face them and overcome them on your own as an adult.

What do you think? Is there really that big of a difference in the generations? Whose responsibility is it?

 

 

Mindful Moment

Question of the day:

‘Would you rather hurt or feel nothing at all?’

For someone with a chronic illness, daily pain is a given. For someone who has been fortunate to be healthy most of their lives, they do not know the ongoing personal struggle of daily pain.

So from different view points comes different answers.

Would you rather hurt and feel love, joy, sadness, happiness, and all other emotions or be relieved of pain but feel nothing at all forever?

For someone who is going through a heart break, a loss they may answer one way. For someone who has never had a death in their family they may answer another way.

For me, at first I answered I would rather feel nothing at all. Than I began to think of all of the positive emotions I would be giving up. I realized that I will take the pain for a moment of joy. I will take the rain for a rainbow.

What would you do? This tells a lot about your perspectives and where you are at in your life today.

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Hurricane Matthew Update: Over 100 Confirmed Dead In Haiti And Obama Declares A Federal State Of Emergency — Real Stories – UPROXX

.@JaniceDean has the latest on #HurricaneMatthew. pic.twitter.com/FJ7epT9F6z — Fox News (@FoxNews) October 6, 2016 As Hurricane Matthew ascends towards the United States, the storm has restrengthened into a Category 4 storm with 140mph winds. By Friday morning, the powerful storm will slam into Florida, which already saw early bands of rain clouds on Thursday. Matthew…

via Hurricane Matthew Update: Over 100 Confirmed Dead In Haiti And Obama Declares A Federal State Of Emergency — Real Stories – UPROXX